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I'm an 18year old girl, I've had two abortions. I'm finally getting my life. I'm going out of state to peruse my dreams in 2weeks. However, 2weeks ago i found out i was pregnant. i'm playing on aborting it next week. i've never regretted my decisions. but i feel so dumb for not taking care of myself and putting myself though this once again. i'm so embarrassed and shameful. I'm feeling down. I know i won't regret it,but I don't know who to talk to.. I don't know how to feel..
I’m sorry that you have to do that again. It’s gotta be hard, but you have to handle the situation as best as you can, and if having an abortion is the best decision for yourself, then we stand behind you 100%.
Try not to be too hard on yourself, maybe just reflect on your passed mistakes and try to fix them after the procedure? I’m not exactly sure what happened, but if it was a lack of birth control, maybe consult with your doctor or go to a sexual health clinic where it can be provided to you for cheap or if it was birth control failure maybe you need to explore your options of different types of birth control to help better protect yourself from other pregnancies. Another thing is, is if you think your birth control has failed, try and get your hands on some Plan B asap! (Not a lot of people know this, but you can take it up to 5 days after the failed birth control, but it’s way more effective to take it within the first 24 hours.)
Either way, it happens, to people who use birth control properly, to people who accidentally use it improperly (and some people don’t even realize it), or just being in the heat of the moment can impair your judgement, either way, mistakes happen, and as long as we try to better our situations and learn from our pasts, it’s okay. I hope you’re doing alright,and if you need anything else, we’ll be here for you. I know it must be hard for you right now, so if you need anything, we’ll try and help provide that for you. Stay strong love and I hope your procedure goes well. Positive thoughts and support will be sent your way! ♥ ♥ - Paige
If you need someone to talk to, Backline and Exhale are great pregnancy and post-abortion counseling lines! provoicesupportblog is a trained Exhale counselor, if you want to see what that might look like.
Not to go all charts and graphs on you, but…well, I’m gonna. Multiple abortions are not that uncommon! See?
This is from the Guttmacher Institute’s 2008 survey of abortion patients. The medium gray is people who’ve had at least one previous abortion, and dark gray represents those who’ve had at least one previous abortion and given birth as well. Life is long, and shit happens. You are definitely not alone.
Bedsider can be helpful in finding a birth control method that works for you, and you may even be able to get it for a lot less than you thought! The most effective methods are the IUD and the implant (I have one!), but there are tons and tons of options. And just in case, here’s a $10-off coupon for Plan B.
Can the U.S. bring the proportion of unplanned pregnancies down to 44% by the year 2020? Maybe the goal sounds modest, but unplanned pregnancy is a tough nut to crack. Recent research from the Guttmacher Institute found that the rate of unplanned pregnancy in the U.S. actually went up slightly between 2001 and 2008, from 48% to 51% of pregnancies overall. Want more deets? Read our Get on Top about it or go directly to Guttmacher’s news release.
The rate of unplanned pregnancy has always been higher for low-income folks. The Guttmacher Institute’s previous work suggests that highly effective birth control methods, such as the IUD or Nexplanon implant, are often prohibitively expensive, meaning poorer people have to rely on methods that are more subject to human error, like the pill, patch, or condoms alone. They are also less likely to have access to accurate information about their bodies and contraception.
I recently found out I am pregnant yet again I had a abortion two years ago. After that I was an extremist about making sure I didn't get pregnant again until it was on my terms. So I got on the pill, made sure my partners used condoms, the whole nine. I got a tiny bit intoxicated and had sex with one of my guy friends. Little did I know that he wasn't wearing a condom, and apparently I messed up my pills. I'm completely lost right now. Coming to your blog for support. Things are getting weird
I’m sorry that happened to you, it’s definitely a difficult thing to have to go through, have you decided what you’re going to do yet? Just know that we will support you through whatever decision you make, this isn’t your fault love, so please don’t feel guilty! - Paige
Not to assume your decision, but multiple abortions are really not that uncommon! Each year, half of the people who get abortions have had at least one before (see page 8 here - over half of those patients have had children, too!). Birth control failure, human error, or simply forgetting can happen, and it doesn’t make you a failure.
[Ed. Note: This post is one of a series, presented by NARAL Pro-Choice Washington as part of NARAL Pro-Choice America’s CPC Week of Action. For the full list of posts on this topic, click here.]
Posted by Social Media and Project Intern Michelle Auster
There’s a new report on CPCs just released by the Guttmacher Institute, detailing once more the many ways CPCs misinform women. Shocker: CPCs produce content for their visitors which lie and provide medically false and inaccurate information. From Guttmacher’s findings:
Informed consent—the concept that individuals have a right to receive relevant, accurate and unbiased information prior to receiving medical care so they can make sound decisions regarding treatment—is a bedrock principle of medical ethics.
…And, spoiler alert: CPCs choose to ignore this principle.
Interesting, given that anti-choice rhetoric often hinges on the principle of informed consent. Hypocrisy, anyone?
You can read the whole report here, and help contribute to the conversation on these fake clinics. Please help spread awareness about Crisis Pregnancy Centers!
Know where your care is coming from.
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