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Adoption is an alternative to parenting. Abortion is an alternative to birth.
This Common Secret, Susan Wicklund
I remember seeing a video OneThirdGone posted about her group protesting outside a doctor’s home. I rolled my eyes at it and thought of how irritating they were. But after reading about the struggles of Dr. Wicklund and all the harassment she’s endured (and I’m not even halfway through the book yet), anti-choice protestors now make me physically sick.
They barricaded Dr. Wicklund’s home - they brought a mobile home and parked it in front of her driveway, and giant cement-filled barrels blocked the entrance. They stalked her daughter at her school, they posted “Wanted” signs all over their town. They made it nearly impossible for her family to leave their home.
If you think clinic protestors are okay, then I’m going to need you to do some rethinking.
This Common Secret, Susan Wickland
I am six chapters into this book, and I’ve been crying since the end of the first chapter. I knew clinic protestors were bad and horrible, but I never realized how awful and evil they actually are. This Common Secret is a powerful, heartbreaking book.
Such a hard, important book to read.
I didn’t need to feel the spit from the pulpit and a wagging finger to know I was punished. And at one time, even though I knew all the scriptures that said otherwise, I believed that God issued me a lifetime sentence of mental anguish.
Oh, how the devil uses our downfalls to feed us the biggest lies.
My God would not include Jeremiah 29:11 if he wanted me to stay emotionally tormented: ‘For I know the thoughts that I think toward you, says the Lord, thoughts of peace and not of evil, to give you a future and a hope.’"
It’s no secret that many abortion patients are Christian, and even pro-life. But the celebration of testimony and redemption often does not reach them. Without shared stories and their promise of a future, many in Christian communities feel alone after an abortion.
This is not a commentary on the universal morality of abortion or whether it should remain legal. This is one Christian woman sharing her story in hopes of helping others find peace, however it may come to them.
I'm very sorry you took my reblog and comment as rude, or offensive! I did not intend that at all, my comment was meant to provide the views of the catholic church and what students of catholic institutions are often taught and why we protest. On the subject of mental health however I have witnessed so many people explain the horrors that followed abortions and the self loathing they feel, so while its not a danger to mental health for all, it is for some. Many women I've spoken to have
so much hate for themselves after their procedures, some to the point of suicide. So there can be dangers to your mental health in some cases. I’m extremely offended though that you call me selfish and misguided though, because I am not catholic and i’m not pro-life. Your examples provided about intimidating praying crowds still provides a single example. I repeat we were on the entirely opposite side of a 4 street road, we even had two patients come and thank us for being so respectful to them.
I truly do not care about your religious and political views. So two patients thanked you for not screaming hysterically at them, wow. Not only does that speak volumes about what people expect from the pro-life movement, it means absolutely nothing to the rest of the patients and staff who view a crowd of anti-abortion activists as a legitimate threat to their safety and wellbeing. You do not belong outside abortion clinics.
And yes, I’m sure you, as a former Catholic and pro-lifer, have witnessed many people speaking of the horrors of their abortion experiences. Those two communities tend not to leave room for any other kinds of stories. Those two communities tend not to offer support unless you show you are sufficiently traumatized and repentant. I’m sorry, but…duh.
I’ll repeat myself one more time: Abortion is not an inherent danger to mental health. For some patients it is, just as for some parents, postpartum depression and postpartum psychosis are very real dangers. I’ve also collected hundreds of positive abortion stories, so if you want to go anecdote-for-anecdote as if that will prove anything against actual data, we can do that.
If you’re still confused as to why “but we’re not ALL like that!" irritates me so much, I’ve created a brand new tag today, just for the occasion. Click that linked sentence and knock yourself out.
I’m looking at everybody: Pro-life, pro-choice, and undecided. It is extremely disrespectful to hijack somebody’s story to tell them they made the wrong decision, or to cuss out somebody who does that.
Pro-lifers: If you see somebody’s abortion story, know that confronting them does nothing to reverse their decision, speed their healing, help them “find faith,” or whatever your goal may be. It is hurtful and invasive.
Pro-choicers: If you see somebody’s abortion story, do not take it as support for your position. If somebody’s story is being hijacked, do not escalate the situation. Reblog their original post with words of love and support, or send them a private message.
People from all walks of life have abortions. Regardless of your views, we should be working to create a world where everyone feels safe sharing their experiences.
I need to start loving myself and stop reading those “but we’re not ALL like that!” responses. It’s just so frustrating to read people who legitimately believe anti-abortion “science.”
Learn from Judy Garland, Bébinn.
One of the most important aspects of Pro Voice work is respecting everyone’s individual truth.
Your truth is extremely valid and important and someone else may have a completely different one which is equally valid and important.
This is why it’s important to share and support varying abortion stories, no one truth is more important or worth sharing than the other.