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Pro-Choice and Pro-Voice

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Apr 18 '14
Apr 14 '14

April 11th, 2014

provoice:

420ginger:

The date I got my abortion. I was 7 weeks and 5 days when I had my procedure. Two days before I had my ultrasound. I heard the heartbeat and looked at the screen but neither made me doubt my decision.
I got to the Planned Parenthood in Austin, TX at 8 am. I filled out paperwork in the waiting room and then waited about an hour. Then I was taken to get blood work and such done which never bothers me any. Then we went over even more paperwork about the procedure, the risks (which do not include breast cancer or infertility because those are myths pro lifers came up with) and they covered info on birth control (I settled for the pill because it’s free and the procedure cost $420). Then they took me to the recovery room where I visited with the doctor who would perform the abortion (same doc that did my ultrasound). She was extremely sweet and understanding and really made me feel less nervous. We decided to go with moderate sedation which included an anti-anxiety med and pain med.

After visiting with her I was given a bag of socks, a gown and a blanket, and put into the patient waiting room where I watched a shitty soap for about another hour. Then I was called back into the recovery room where I changed into my gown and socks and they put in my IV.

Finally, my doctor came in and escorted me to the back of the building into the surgical suit. The nurse I had seen my first day there gave me my medications through my IV and I instantly stopped shaking and my nervousness was gone. I barely felt anything when my cervix was being dialated. Mostly just pressure and then a weird suction sensation. After about 5 minutes I was done and back in the recovery room. I sat there for a bit while they took out my IV and got all my things together. They checked my bleeding twice and then I was told I can go.

It was seriously that simple and that short of a procedure. I never really felt pregnant to begin with so I didn’t feel any different afterwards. Even when I think about it now I don’t feel any different than before. I don’t feel any regret or remorse. I feel very relieved and stress free and now my family and I can get back on track.

My abortion was a good decision and I am not ashamed of it. I would also like to thank Planned Parenthood for being so amazingly informative, understanding, and supportive. I have never in my life felt at ease in any clinic or hospital except for at a Planned Parenthood clinic. Thank you for being awesome(:

Thank you for sharing your story and being so open about your experience!

Apr 13 '14

ppmissouri:

"At 16 weeks we found out the baby I was carrying had Trisomy 18, a chromosomal defect that is incompatible with life.  It was after much soul searching and with a heavy heart that after talking with my husband, family, rabbi and doctor that I decided to have an abortion. I thought long and hard about that decision, but once it was made my will never faltered.  An additional 72 hour wait, extra ultrasounds, mandatory videos would not have changed my mind, they would have just caused me more pain than I was already going through,” said Liz Read-Katz of Mid-Missouri. 

Apr 9 '14

seachangeprogram:

Nicole Stewart talks about the five most surprising things about her abortion. She eloquently explains the connections she creates between people who’ve had abortions by sharing her own experience:

"My story has brought awareness to the plight of so many who previously suffered in silence. And together we feel stronger and less isolated…I’ve begun to understand that it is silence, far more than honesty, that we should fear. It is my greatest reward to witness the catharsis of sharing something long held inside and how it heals both the individual and the community who hears the story."

Mar 30 '14
humansofbologna:

I would never have thought to touch such a delicate topic, but I guess that that’s what HOPE is for; it gets us closer to realities that seem distant. "The day I was most scared in my life was the day I got an abortion. Abortion is illegal in my home country, Argentina. Women go through it with the constant fear of being exposed and punished. And you feel like you have chains on you, and you can’t get free.”Of course I asked her If I could publish her story, and she answered that I had to. She promised also to send me the picture that we got together.—-Mai avrei pensato di toccare tramite la fotografia argomenti così delicati, ma forse HOPE serve anche a questo, a rendere un po’ più palpabili realtà che ci sembrano lontane. "La paura più forte da me mai provata è stata quando ho abortito. L’aborto è illegale nel mio paese d’origine, l’Argentina. Le donne devono affrontare la cosa con la paura di essere scoperte e punite. Ti senti come delle catene addosso da cui non riesci a liberarti."Naturalmente le ho chiesto se potevo pubblicare la sua storia e lei mi ha risposto che dovevo farlo. Ora spero che lei mi mandi la nostra foto scattata insieme.Seen in Bologna, Italy © Elisabetta Boz

humansofbologna:

I would never have thought to touch such a delicate topic, but I guess that that’s what HOPE is for; it gets us closer to realities that seem distant. 

"The day I was most scared in my life was the day I got an abortion. Abortion is illegal in my home country, Argentina. Women go through it with the constant fear of being exposed and punished. And you feel like you have chains on you, and you can’t get free.”

Of course I asked her If I could publish her story, and she answered that I had to. She promised also to send me the picture that we got together.

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Mai avrei pensato di toccare tramite la fotografia argomenti così delicati, ma forse HOPE serve anche a questo, a rendere un po’ più palpabili realtà che ci sembrano lontane. 

"La paura più forte da me mai provata è stata quando ho abortito. L’aborto è illegale nel mio paese d’origine, l’Argentina. Le donne devono affrontare la cosa con la paura di essere scoperte e punite. Ti senti come delle catene addosso da cui non riesci a liberarti."

Naturalmente le ho chiesto se potevo pubblicare la sua storia e lei mi ha risposto che dovevo farlo. Ora spero che lei mi mandi la nostra foto scattata insieme.

Seen in Bologna, Italy © Elisabetta Boz

Mar 30 '14

My Abortion

bedlamity:

I originally posted this on natural-bedlam.  I’ve edited it - minor things, since I wrote it the day of my abortion - and decided to repost it here for anyone who needs it. 

I had an abortion in the summer of 2013.  I thought I was nine weeks, but I was twelve.  I originally intended to get the pill, but instead had to opt for the in-clinic suction abortion.  (Later, I realized this was good; the pill basically induces miscarriage and is pretty darn painful from what I’ve read.)

I was frightened.  I didn’t like the thought of such invasive techniques.  However, I knew I had to get it done.

Now, to the abortion.  After finding out I was too far for the pill, I decided to stay for the in-clinic procedure.  I had no one to drive me home, so I wasn’t allowed pain medication that made me drowsy.  They still gave me a shot in the hip, that would help with cramps from dilation, and an antibiotic, as a precaution.

Once in the procedure room, I had a nurse by my side the whole time.  She was marvelous. She told me what was going to happen and confirmed that there would be intense cramping during dilation, but she had a hand to offer if I needed it.  As soon as the doctor came in, he shook my hand and smiled and told me he’d try to make it quick and as painless as possible.

After that, he began to prepare.  He did a pelvic exam on me then injected a shot into my cervix to numb it.  Then he used dilators - which are metal rods of varying thickness - to open my cervix.  This part caused the most discomfort, but it wasn’t unbearable; I clung to my nurse’s hand and she wiped my tears away.  It felt like severe menstrual cramps.  I focused on breathing in through my nose and out through my mouth.  When he inserted the suction to clean out my uterus, it was again uncomfortable, in the sense it felt weird, but not unbearable.  I knew it’d be over soon, so I just focused on breathing while my nurse spoke reassuringly to me.

Now, I’ve gone through labor without an epidural - though I was given a relaxant - and I didn’t scream out.  The dilation did make me cry out, because it is uncomfortable; they’re more intense than period cramps, but they are only a couple minutes out of a five minute procedure.  It didn’t hurt and I’m not dead.  

Again, I wasn’t able to get any pain medication that could make me drowsy since I was alone and driving myself home.  If you are considering abortion and you’re afraid of pain, I urge you to make plans to have someone go with you.  It’s good moral support and you’ll be allowed better pain medication, since you’ll have someone to drive you home.

Afterward, my nurse helped me put my underwear and pants on and took me to the recovery area.  She gave me a heating pad and placed a blanket over me.  I was given crackers to eat, my pain medication to take home, and the contraception I asked for.  I was in recovery for thirty minutes, after which I reported how much bleeding I had and had one last blood pressure test, before being told that I could go home.

They gave me a 24/7 number, in case of complications, along with a paper on what is normal and what would be worrisome.

The entire time, everyone smiled and was friendly.  They genuinely made me feel cared for.

I didn’t realize how much they helped until I got out to my car and began crying.  I wasn’t sad or feeling regret.  I was and am stunned.  I was shocked.  Everyone in that Planned Parenthood had so much compassion, so much kindness.  None of them needed to know why I was there, just that I was there and they were going to help, whatever way I needed.

You never realize how badly you need a hand, sometimes, until a stranger offers theirs for your comfort.

Now that I’m seven months later, I’d like to add that I’ve never felt regret for my abortion.  I have felt sad, but that’s not the same as regret.  It was a sad choice for me to make, but it was necessary and it was the best option. 

That said, if you have any questions, have comments, or if you need some support, my inbox is always open.  (Anon is on, too.)

Thank you for writing this! I hope it can help someone else feel a little less scared.

(Source: protego-et-servio)

Mar 30 '14
Diary Entry 12: Nikki, 26 (New Orleans, LA, 2001)

theabortiondiarypodcast:

Nikki shares her story of obtaining an abortion while she a high school freshman in New Orleans, Louisiana.

Mar 28 '14

thecatenelson:

bebinn:

whocansurviveinamerica:

bebinn:

shukr-with-my-coffee:

bebinn:

Emily Letts, a patient advocate at Cherry Hill Women’s Center, is the winner of the Abortion Stigma Busting Video contest! Emily let us into the operating room during her first-trimester abortion and told us what it was like before and after making her decision.

Sponsored by the Abortion Care Network and the 1 in 3 Campaign, the contest was launched to push back against the shame and silence that keeps patients from getting the care and support they need.

(Note: This is not a graphic video - the portion in the operating room focuses solely on her face and hands.)

Wow, this is truly incredible. Thank you, Emily to making and sharing this.

While I was pregnant with both of my children, I can’t even guess as to how many birthing videos I watched on youtube, and I can’t even begin to calculate just how big on an impact it was for my births to have been able to watch other woman do what I was getting ready to do. 

I remember being comforted that birth wasn’t all screaming and horror like it is on TV. I remember watching women giving birth as gracefully as making love and wanting that sort of experience now that I knew I could have that sort of experience; that I didn’t have to be scared. 

I’ve never heard of to seen any other abortion videos like this, but I would imagine that if I were to fall pregnant again at this time or at another time in my life when more children still isn’t practical, these videos would be a great comfort to me to know that I could do this with grace. 

Yes! I have a page of written stories, but wish there were more videos, too. Abortion is shrouded in fear and mystery, and it’s not fair to patients who don’t know what to expect.

[deleted by Bébinn because stories are beautiful and haters are boring]

I had just the same kind of beautiful, caring experience because of people like her.
I was relieved after.
I don’t feel guilty.
I own it. It’s mine.
It’s hers.

This is the most important thing.

(Source: vimeo.com)

Mar 27 '14
My ask is always open for people who want to vent, and provoicesupportblog is a trained Pro-Voice post-abortion counselor and an all-around lovely person. There are lots of people on Tumblr who would be thrilled to listen to you, and I have a list of nonjudgmental pregnancy hotlines. I wish you the best and hope you at least don’t have to be alone.

My ask is always open for people who want to vent, and provoicesupportblog is a trained Pro-Voice post-abortion counselor and an all-around lovely person. There are lots of people on Tumblr who would be thrilled to listen to you, and I have a list of nonjudgmental pregnancy hotlines. I wish you the best and hope you at least don’t have to be alone.

Mar 25 '14
Mar 24 '14
provoicesupportblog:

anat0micalheartz:

Those who have abortions are not apart from those who choose to parent. Sometimes we are the same people at different points in our lives. Sometimes we never make the other choice at all. But we are all deserving of love and support regardless of where our decisions take us.  @pro_choice #4000YearsForChoice #ProChoice #ReproductiveRights #Feminism #ProLife #Feminist #Abortion #ProchoiceIsProlife #a anatomicalheartz

I love what you said ^^

provoicesupportblog:

anat0micalheartz:

Those who have abortions are not apart from those who choose to parent. Sometimes we are the same people at different points in our lives. Sometimes we never make the other choice at all. But we are all deserving of love and support regardless of where our decisions take us.
@pro_choice #4000YearsForChoice #ProChoice #ReproductiveRights #Feminism #ProLife #Feminist #Abortion #ProchoiceIsProlife #a anatomicalheartz

I love what you said ^^

Mar 23 '14
"The most distressing thing about my abortion was the reaction I got from others. The first friend I told was extremely judgemental – reluctantly accepting my choice but making it clear that she would have made a different decision and thought I wasn’t thinking it through. All because she personally said she wouldn’t have an abortion."

This Is What My Abortion Was Like

"I’m pro-choice, but I would never have an abortion" is not a supportive or even realistic statement. Nearly one in three women and people who can get pregnant will have an abortion in their lifetime. Think about why you are distancing yourself from them, and what effect that has on the culture of silence and stigma.

Mar 23 '14
Mar 21 '14
seachangeprogram:

We’re on the front page of Cosmopolitan, talking about how to create culture change around abortion and other stigmatized reproductive experiences. Read the whole piece here!

I love this so much, and I can’t wait to see what’s next!

seachangeprogram:

We’re on the front page of Cosmopolitan, talking about how to create culture change around abortion and other stigmatized reproductive experiences. Read the whole piece here!

I love this so much, and I can’t wait to see what’s next!

Mar 15 '14

"I just wasn’t ready to be a mother, and I think that that is a valid reason, just as any other, to choose to have an abortion."

1 in 3 Campaign